"When I was a little girl I used to read fairy tales. In fairy tales you meet Prince Charming and he's everything you ever wanted. In fairy tales the bad guy is always easy to spot. The bad guy is always wearing a black cape so you know who he is. Then you grow up and you realize the prince charming is not as easy to find as you thought. You realize the bad guy is not wearing a black cape and he's not easy to spot; he's really funny, and he makes you laugh, and he has perfect hair."
-Taylor Swift
Oh Taylor Swift, homegirl, can you have worded that any more perfect? I wish with all of my heart that when I start falling for a boy, I could have a fairy godmother who flies around me to warn me of my upcoming heartbreak and misfortunes. I mean how nice would it be to start crushing on a boy and you have a precious little white-haired fairy swirling around you to let you know that you are not the only one on his mind or that he does this to every other girl or that he is going to get sick of you and toss you to the side in a few months? I mean yes, humans can survive a breakup and learn a lot and blah blah blah, but still. It would be pretty cool to have a little "trailor" of what your upcoming relationship would be like- purely for the sake of saving the worst feeling of all, being heart broken. So here are 7 signs that you are falling for "the bad guy" aka a douche bag.
7.) You find yourself tweeting way too many "FMT" tweets with hopes that he will favorite them so you will have an excuse to text or DM him. I mean, at the start it's cool it's fine whatever, but if you're at the point where you guys talk pretty regularly, you should be able to start a conversation with him whenever you are feeling like chatting with him. Games shouldn't be necessary to grab his attention.
6.) You make the awful mistake of going through his favorites on Twitter, first issue, but then you find out he's favoriting tons of girls "FMT" tweets, especially a certain girl or two's repeatedly. Possibly those girls are tweeting things to grab someone's attention (as mentioned in number 7) and possibly they're taking that "favorite" the same way that you are. Just saying, if I'm "talking" or whatever we call it to a boy, I best be the only girl he's "sliding into DM's" for, maybe I'm psycho but whatever.
5.) He can never hangout on weekends, aka he doesn't want to bump hanging with friends, for being with you. I'm definitely not suggesting for a successful relationship you should be hanging out every weekend night and no friends ever (but I have never had a successful relationship so what do I know) I'm just saying that if the only time he can hangout is weeknights, or past midnight on weekends, you might be zooming right into the "friends with benefits" zone.
4.) He comes with a huge-neon-flashing lights sign from your best friends (the ones who have your best interest in mind.) Now, people can surprise us girls, but often times when you tell a friend you're kind of maybe going out with this guy or maybe kind of making out with him and she gets that concerned look on her face which looks like she's also about to barf, maybe proceed with caution. Or, if you have friends who will flat out say "he's not a nice boy he's not nice to girls," don't take that lightly. I mean, don't judge by rumors, but sometimes a boy is only nice to a girl until he gets what he wants.
3.) You have that "uneasy" vibe that every single darn bad guy gives off. This vibe he radiates, which is irresistible and mysterious and charming, is HUGE!! Pay attention to vibes- they do not lie. If you get the "vibe" he's with another girl or he's not telling the truth or anything, flat out ask him. Because here's the thing, he might be bugged you doubted him, but if he's not doing anything wrong he won't have anything to worry about. But if your vibe is right, which most of the time it is, calling him out can save many nights of tearful wallowing and icecream stuffing and Taylor Swift lip synching nights. Which can be fun, but eventually hurt- lots.
2.) You guys make plans, but you're constantly worried about him bailing until he actually shows. I mean, maybe this is a little underlying fear in every girl or maybe I'm just paranoid that people find out more about me and do not want anything to do with me, but ok story time. Once upon a time I liked this boy and one time we made plans and he bailed- LAME right?! So I had to resort to playing games, like tweeting a picture of a friend at my local in n out just to make this boy jealous, when looking back I should have just called him out on being a flake and tell him that isn't okay with me and if he's interested he's gonna need to set aside like a little time for me, not too much, but a night here or there- because constantly after that night whenever that boy and I made plans I was afraid of him bailing on me. I never felt secure or safe- not a good sign.
1.) Dun dun dun duuuuuunnnnn! The number one sign you are falling for "the bad guy" is (for me atleast) that the boy wants to keep your relationship or thing or whatever is going on between you two, between you two. No matter the reason, if he has feelings for you he should not be ashamed to show you off!!! (Cue "Show You Off" courtesy of Justin Bieber) I don't mean like constantly snapping snaps of you when you're together or tweeting constantly to make sure the whole world knows you're together- which, if that's your thing, go for it- but I mean like if you're afraid to tell your best friend about what's going on because he wants to keep it a secret- that's not right, just not cool.
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