Perspective

Alright so I haven't been on this earth for very long, actually in the grand scheme of things I have been on this earth shorter than a boy changes his mind about a girl- which is pretty dang fast. But something that I have noticed, especially lately, is that when my perspective changes my situation changes. I feel like sometimes life is that optical illusion where you blur your eyes a little and squint and change your perspective, and you see a totally different image than previously. 

Before I got my heart torn open and ripped to shreds by multiple (okay not that many but let's pretend I have a super hard and dark past so I will gain pity and everyone will like me because they feel bad for me) boys, I would listen to the Taylor Swift lines of Forever And Always where she sings "Did I say something way too honest, made you run and hide, like a scared little boy, I looked into your eyes.." and any heart broken girl know the rest of that line that just stabs at your heart. So previous to a dramatic occurance in my life I pictured the scared little boy line referencing the guy who stabbed Taylor's heart. I imagined that she was getting at him by saying he runs and he hides from the issues he needs to face- the way a scared little boy would. So fast forward a few months, heart broken and teary eyed me, obviously, turned to Taylor Swift for some serious musical therapy and now I picture her saying "like a scared little boy, I looked into your eyes," so now, Taylor (me) is the scared little boy. I am now the pitiful character who is scared and scarred. 

That is what perspective does. It takes the same situation and twists it so you see what you are internalizing. 

I often say "you are a 10 cows kind of girl, and you deserve a boy who has 10 cows to give," so a little backstory- (there are mulitple of these, I googled it) but basically, a long time ago, families would sell of their daughters for cows in a marriage. If a woman was sold for three cows, she was doing pretty well. Four cows was she was probably pretty and smart and didn't burn the food too much, but five cows was never heard of. And there was this one instance where a man said he would give 10 cows for a woman, basically stating her worth is a whole lot. Like 10 cows, slow down man. 

When a girl decides to look at herself with a different perspective, as a lady, as a woman, as a daughter of God, she sees that she is worth 10 cows. She will see that some guys only have 2 cows to offer, and that she should not settle for that. *Side note: When I mean cows to offer, I do not mean monetary status because boys have a lot more to offer than nice gifts and cool cars- like fancy dinners!

I wish girls saw themselves worth 10 cows. I wish that a girls perspective on herself is not damaged because a one track minded boy decides to simply not want her. I wish with all of my might that there were more boys who have 10 cows to give, who realized they have 10 cows to give and would want to give 10 cows. A lot of the time I forget that I am worth 10 cows, I mean I know I am psycho so maybe really wimpy and skinny cows, but 10 cows nonetheless. 

So ladies, if you are dating a guy who only has 3 cows and doesn't want to give up that extra 7, if he says little remarks that make you feel bad, if he gives you the feeling that his intentions are not true, if he doesn't make your heart beat faster than that one time at the Jonas Brothers concert when Nick sang that high note, then drop him. Because no girl is worth a guy that is not willing to give his 10 best cows for her.

xoxo