How A Relationship Starts vs. How It Ends

Because I have had a vast experience with relationships, and because I consider myself able to diagnose problems from watching an accumulative 16 seasons of Greys Anatomy (I restarted it) I have come to a medical conclusion, that for some reason boys are wired to get over breakups differently than girls do. Medical breakthrough! Spread the word! 

But jokes aside, it is the harsh truth.

When a relationship is blooming, it looks a little like this:

Happy, go lucky, hopeful really. Like oh look at this cute boy in front of me who will no doubt break my heart and cause me heartbreak to no extent, but he is cute so I will take it. And then the break up comes, whether initiated by the girl or the boy, and life looks a little like this:

Confusing and crappy and catastrophic. Because that boy who once was the shining beacon of you day, the boy who would wake you up with good morning texts and whose hugs seemed to cure all of the impurities in your world no longer has the right to hear the best parts of your days and you can no longer always count on one of his kisses to melt the pains of everyday life away.

So here's what I am getting at, when a couple splits, the girl (sorry to stereotype ladies) cries, she beckons her friends over and they trash talk the boy and eat trashy food and watch trashy movies. That is how she starts to cope, but guys, ugh, they cover their bleeding hearts with finding a new girl. Someone new to kiss and to take on dates, that is how he pushes his past love out of his life. I see this happen to friends over and over again, and it sucks. It sucks because why can't guys just cry and be emotionally unstable like girls? I haven't rewatched enough Greys Anatomy to know the answer to that question, but I do know that the boy is hurting too.

So to all of you ladies watching your ex beau hit up the town post break up while you're in bed with your favorite pair of fuzzy socks, just know that your boy who once gave you butterflies but now you want to run over his perfect hair with your car is not the only guy who copes this way, they all do it at some point. And being "friends" with your ex is a load of crap, because either you guys are hooking up or that's basically it. No one at this stage in our lives is grown up and mature enough to calmly look an ex in their eyes and just "be friends," but maybe we will grow up enough to get that way. Or not, maybe life is supposed to suck for all exes. I will let you all know when I figure it out. Until then, have fun being the crazy ex girlfriend.

xoxo