It's Hard To Be A Girl

Here's the deal, it is hard to be a girl. I am not saying it is not hard to be a boy, but I am saying it is hard to be a girl. I believe that if we took away all of the pressure laid on from social media and  took away the power of physical looks we, as girls, would still constantly feel jealous and the need to rise above one another. Basically rise to the top, pushing whoever down, as long as you get your sparkling crown at the top. But for real, it is hard to be a person, and it is even harder to be a person who is trying to figure out how to do grown up things and look and feel grown up, when you have the natural tendencies, like tears, jealously and regret always panging inside of you- so to speak.

But something that has occured multiple times to me in the past couple of days, is the fact that girls want what they cannot have. The boy, curly hair, straight hair, long legs, shorter legs, like I am pretty sure that if you put together the ideal image of your perfect girl, she would still want the exact opposite of what she has. That is just how it is.

I was listening in on conversation, evesdropping while ringing a customer up, and a proud mother was telling another coworker about all of the accomplishments her daughter standing next to her has made while in her college career. Now the mother did enough bragging so I will refrain from listing all of them, but they were extrememly impressive and very old person grown up accomplishments of her daughter to have completed at such a young age. As the coworker left to help someone else, I heard the daughter whisper to her mother "she always had the best clothes," and the mother whispered back "yeah but you get to meet Hunter Hayes," which, is pretty cool, but the daughter responded with a sigh.

Here's the deal: no matter how cool your life is, like getting to have some one on one time with Hunter Hayes, girls are constantly going to feel jealous of one another. It sucks. Or maybe I am the only one who feels this way, but I have a feeling I am not.

When I was little, okay so like 16, I longed for blonde hair. Like I just wanted to be one of those girls who looks good with blonde hair and call it a day, like to me if you were a girl with blonde hair you really were all that and a bag of chips- and to me, that is how boys perceived it too. But the issue is I am half Chinese, and the only blonde asian I have seen pull off blonde hair is that Urban Outfitters model, and she rocks it, but I just know that blonde hair would not look good on me. Some stuff is just how it is, but just because I do not have blonde hair does not mean that my brown hair isn't pretty, it doesn't mean that boys cannot be attracted to me. Just because the girl sitting in front of you is 3 sizes smaller than you doesn't mean you will never feel pretty, or just because your hair curls differently than your roommates doesn't mean that you can't love your hair just as much as she does. The truth is that the saying "the grass is always greener on the other side," is so horribly true. 

But just because the girl with the mile long legs and hair down to her waist is walking past you and seeing her walk past in her mini skirt makes you regret all late night Ben & Jerry decisions, does not by any means make you less beautiful, or cute, or funny. Just because that one boy, or the last seven it seems sometimes, does not see your worth and your wit and the power of what you bring into a relationship does not make you unwanted by the male species, it just means that life is waiting to give you what you can handle when you can handle it.

So just be patient, don't be jealous, and be happy for girls that look pretty, because maybe they have an awful personality.

xoxo