Why You Should Stop Kissing Your Ex(es) Now

Why you should stop kissing your ex(es) now, and you should have stopped doing that like yesterday:

You know that feeling that Lane has in the Gilmore Girls episode where Henry, the boy who she has regular phone dates with, kind of breaks up with her but not really breaks up because they were never dating- that feeling? That is the feeling you get after you stop hooking up with an ex. It's an odd and indescribable feeling, it's a feeling of you lost something that never really was there. It's a feeling that you do not really have a true and valid reason to be upset over because during this whole fling you convinced yourself you do not have feelings for said ex and also, everything is purely physical and fun. 

The issue with hooking up with an ex is someone always catches feelings. Whether it's the girl or the boy, kissing your ex releases emotions you have worked so darn hard to suppress. Plus, the hooking up stage is usually followed by severe angry emotions on both sides, which ends up with hurt feelings and bad thoughts towards the whole relationship. 

I am guilty of this, literally every relationship or close to relationship I have ends badly because I try to be friends, then the boy just starts kissing me and there isn't anything I can do about it!!! But for real, I am here to testify to you the dangers of hooking up with an ex. Also, hooking up with an ex previous to current ex is just entering into a hazardous situation.

Once an ex, always an ex. Once you breakup with someone and kiss for fun you are already creating unhealthy patterns that if you were to get back together, still will cause stress and strain to your relationship. 

Relationships are awesome and heart wrenching and confusing and important, but exes are exes for a reason, and kissing because you both miss kissing just messes things up and will not patch over the fact that you guys had to break up for a reason. It's okay to miss an ex, and if you don't then that is a sure sign that the relationship was not in the stars, but it's okay to miss someone you spent every waking hour with- just be careful my loves. Missing people is an important part of life, because if we never missed each other I believe that we would not know how to truly appreciate another's presence. Missing people comes in phases, but eventually that missing feeling numbs and you are able to look back on a relationship and be grateful for the good times and laugh at the crappy ones. Missing an ex sucks, but eventually that missing feeling fades into a distant memory and missing a boy is easily suppressed with dirty Diet Coke, friends, and a new boy- it's simple really. 

Exes are tricky because part of you doesn't want to give up on what you thought was so real and so pure, but the other parts of you know that sometimes, relationships and things in our lives have to end so that we can make room for better moments. 

Maybe I'm writing this for my pure enjoyment or maybe one girl will listen to my weak advice and avoid another heartbreak because she was strong! She had will power against her cute ex! More power to you! And good luck with the next boy, starting over sucks, but it is exciting and the butterflies of a new crush keep me going- with the help of Diet Coke. 

Xoxo

Kenzie

What Not To Do

I haven't done a lot of right things in my life, but I have done a lot of wrong things. And a few okay things.

Here is a fun little list of situations, and how to not handle them properly. May you always make the right choice and be mature, but still be sassy and get your point across.

When a boy says "I love you" for the first time as you are saying goodbye: probably do not pretend to not hear him, give him a quick kiss goodbye and hop in your car. I do not know the right procedure for a moment like this, but the way I handled it was not very cool of me and lead on for an awkward conversation later.

When you get discouraged because you have to go up a size in a piece of clothing: instead of being discouraged because you are not the same size you were in high school, be happy in the fact that you are getting more fabric for the same price as an XS swimsuit, basically you are getting more bang for your buck and you can consider yourself a savvy shopper.

When you're sad but do not want to talk about it: it's okay to take some time alone and meditate and have some alone time, but eventually it is time to let it out. Because if you do not, you will end up teaching your Relief Society lesson with tear streaked cheeks and mascara clumps because a good friend pulled you aside when they saw you blue. Let people help you, let your friends see you cry and let the universe help to heal you- because sometimes you have to take things one day at a time.

When you're going through a tough breakup so you decide to chop and color your hair: DO NOT UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCE MAKE ANY PERMANENT CHANGES WHEN YOU ARE SAD OVER A STUPID, UNDESERVING AND NASTY BOY. You will only regret your newly colored hair and you will miss your long locks, which will not replace you missing your ex.

When every girl from your grade is engaged/in a serious relationship/has their sh*t together: be happy for those girls! They have it figured out, or so it seems. It is okay to be happy for someone who has something that you want and do not have. Just because someone has the ring you want or the body you want or the lifestyle you want does not mean that your body and your lifestyle is not amazing and awesome and does not mean that you cannot be happy.

When a boy calls you crazy or immature: do not try to explain to him why you are acting the way you are, because all girls have a little bit of crazy in them (some more and some less) and every action we as women do, a boy will constitute as crazy. Instead of telling him why you are feeling what you are feeling or why you are acting the way you are, and trying to justify your actions, just drop him like you're hot and he's not. You do not want a boy who makes you feel like you are crazy (unless that is crazy in love ;-) ) and you do not want a boy who you feel like you have to apologize and explain yourself for experiencing the emotions that you are when you are trying to figure things out. Let him think of you as crazy and psycho in his little and confusing brain and move on, because there are plenty of boys out there who will love your crazy and caring self. There are lots of boys who will go crazy themselves to get to take you on a date or to get to have a flirty conversation in the hallway. It all gets better.

Little quote of the day for ya:

xoxo

Kenzie

Thoughts That Came Into My Head

-I just want to be rich enough where whenever I see a pair of shoes online I can buy them right there and then 

-Monday's become your new favorite days when your friends are on missions

-I miss AZ :-( and the people :-( 

-you're making it easier to let go

-every occasion is a Taylor swift occasion 

-the struggle to keep my hair long or chop into a fashionable lob is real

-90% of the time I have no idea what I'm doing I just roll with the punches 

-running heals the soul (when you don't run for more than 2 miles)

-I want a good summer bod but ALSO I want Krispy Kreme 25/8

-sometimes I worry that I won't get married but then I remember I'm 19 but then I remember I'm way behind in the marriage department than half of my graduating class

-I didn't realize how many couples were in Provo until I wasn't part of a couple

-"take a bow" by Rihanna on repeat though

-"ugly heart" by GRL on repeat also

-one day at a time, still

-2 years is a long time

-life motto:

-another life motto:

-atleast my shoes are cute :-/

Xoxo

Everything Sucks

Well, it's that wonderful time of year again. No I'm not talking about how it's make it or break it (get engaged or break up) season for relationships, Mercury is in retrograde. Wahoo! I'm a big believer that when things go south, let's just blame it on Mercury being in retrograde. So anyway, here is a list of crappy things that if they happened to you between April 25th and May 22nd, you are given a blame it on Mercury being in retrograde pass, because no you are not an unloveable sucky person, the universe is just throwing some bad luck your way.

-you loose your favorite pair of jeans

-you can't eat sugar because of a stupid diet

-you loose your job

-you don't get the job you want

-the boy you've been crushing on decides he's going to date the wrong person, aka anyone who isn't you

-it's too cold outside

-it's too hot outside

-you wear sandals when it's pouring outside

-every darn light on your dashboard in your car goes off

-you have to go to work

-an ex gets engaged

-an enemy gets engaged

-everyone gets engaged

-the dress you NEED is SOLD OUT

-the person you want doesn't want you

-you sleep text

Basically, when you're frustrated and confused because nothing makes sense and you feel like all of the lines in your life are twisted and messed up, we all have an excuse until May 22nd. Good luck babes.

Xoxo

Do I Deserve This?

I see a lot of couples. And by a lot I mean an incredibly large number. I am constantly surrounded by happy young love hand in hand, or a middle aged couple bickering but laughing, and sometimes I see an old couple with a young love. It's really cute but also really annoying when you're sadly single. But it's life, it happens, I move on. 

When I see a couple I like to "dissect" their body language when they are around me, whether I see one in the grocery store or I see them sitting next to eachother in church or they walk into my store when I'm working, I am so interested at how couples interact. I like to see the reaction of women when their partner seems annoyed by being in the store, or when he encourages her to take her time because they are in no rush. Some call it stalking, I call it people watching. 

Does he encourage her? Does she encourage him? Do his words make her light up? When she speaks does he listen with intent? Does he watch her when she's not watching? Does she watch him do suddel things like grab her back or touch her arm?

I like to witness little things that couples do because I like to analyze my own relationships. Over time I have seen girls that I think are far more worth than what they are dating, date crappy boys. And I have also seen guys that I think could make a girl extremely happy, be in relationships where the girl doesn't seem to appreciate him. Now I know I'm judging at a first glance and a few seconds of "people watching" but what I'm getting at is that girls need to know their worth.

Girls, we are 10 cows kind of women! We deserve a guy who is willing to give 10 cows for us! We deserve a guy who will hold our hand because he likes the touch of our fingers, a boy who will open and close your door for you, someone who makes you laugh when tears will not stop falling from your face for no reason at all. It makes me so sad when I see friends or girls passing by who are putting forth their effort, who deserve 10 cows, and are only wasting their time with boys who maybe have 10 cows to give but they choose to give 6 one day and take 2 back the next. 

My wish is that we, as girls, find a man who one day when we are old and wrinkly will take us on a trip to California because it makes us happy, a man who will listen to all of your stories throughout the day and a man that we find ourselves getting excited to tell people about. I have found that when I like a boy and I want to hide him from my friends or my mom- he's usually a crappy boy. Don't ever be afraid to tell anyone that you are so head over heels for this boy who keeps you up all night because you're replaying your first kiss. Because that's the kind of love we deserve. 

Xoxo

Thoughts That Came Into My Head

-I drink too much juice but it's less calories than chickfila

-when are Jesus sandals and socks going to stop being a thing

-working in a swimsuit store when it's cold out is very exciting

-the worst part about a breakup is not having anyone to finish your food anymore #wasteful #goestowasteortomywaist

-I need a juice

-why am I sore from yoga a week ago

-I love seeing happy couples holding hands, love it !!!!!!

-another 19 year old girl from Gilbert get engaged, I dare you, make me feel more single than ever please

-f u Taylor swift for not being on Spotify 

-wait Taylor love me

-I really do care about your issues with your in laws and debating if you should get a spray tan or not before your big day, please tell me more

-why am I wearing a Juicy Couture shirt

-I've never seen more babies, maxi skirts, or couples than on the BYU campus

-one day at a time

Xoxo

Mood Monday

MOOD MONDAY

FOOD: Caesar salad from Sauce

SONG: "Best Thing I Never Had" -Beyoncé

SHOES: Sam Edelman 'Reyes' in Rust Red

BOOK: Harry Potter book 5

TV CHARACTER: Kimmy Schmidt in Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt

DRINK: Jetty Punch from Tropical Smoothie

MOVIE: Brave

QUOTE: "Humble, with just a hint of Kanye."

Xoxo
Kenzie